How to let go?

My daughter is nearly 13.  As such, she is an expert in EVERYTHING, and I, the idiot formerly known as "mommy", have absolutely no understanding of anything whatsoever.

She also has had type 1 diabetes for 4 1/2 years.  In that time, I, the idiot formerly known as "mommy", have become fairly well versed in amateur endocrinology.  I read, I listen, I watch, I ask questions, and though I can't claim to have any control over diabetes, I think I have a fairly decent working knowledge of what it does to her.

Dear daughter has decided that THIS is the hill on which she will make her stand. Even the mere mention of a blood sugar check from me sends her into a frenzy of eye-rolling, huffing, and grumbling under her breath at me. So I have been instructed to pull back.  Let it go.  LET.  IT.  GO.  Let her be in charge and allow the consequences to evolve.






YEAH, RIGHT.  HOW EXACTLY AM I SUPPOSED TO DO THAT????

I'm trying. I've given over most of the responsibility to the Dear Husband....a wonderful guy, but he's not doing it my way and it makes me want to pull my hair out.....there's nothing wrong with his way, exactly - it's just NOT MY WAY.   Control freak, much?  Yes, thanks for asking.

Here's the kicker.  She wanted to stop going to the nurse for BG checks and bolusing at school. Okaaaayyy....she came up with a plan that she thought she could stick to, and we gave her a week to try.



Well, she didn't stick to it.  Days without testing - she bolused for lunch, at least, but no checks.  Crapola.

So my solution is "fine, don't go to the nurse, but wear your Freestyle Navigator Continuous Glucose Monitoring System" (also known as mom's little sanity saver - I HEART the cgm).  
Hysterics ensue.  Reasons, rational and not-so-rational, fly around the room like crazed hummingbirds, all punctuated by sobs and hiccups.  Sigh.  What's a "stepping back from it all" mom to do?


I'm thinking running away and joining the circus might be in my future.  I'll send a postcard.